Rest in peace Uncle Pork.
You're not in any pain now.
Andy will forever miss you.
Lots of love
Oli x

Love from everyone at Blue Bell Farm
Jimbo x

Love you with all my hear Jim.
I miss you so much.
See you soon
Angel xxx

So many happy memories
Andy

Caw canny but caw away
Andrew

A great man, put a new meaning on the word 'courageous'.
He will be badly missed for his humour and occasional mischief.
Richard

We have lost a good friend
Richard & Mark

Jim, what can I express?
You were a wonderful friend.
Death happens but once, yet we feel it every moment of our lives
- but memories never die.
Affection & Love
Duchess xxx

Thank you for the presents, which are still getting much use.
You helped show me what was out there, a great time was had whenever we met.
Michael

Thanks Jim
Martin R

I have known Jim since the early 90's when I moved to London first
- often meeting in The Coleherne, Earls Court.
As a fellow Celt both of us appreciated the dining and endless talking.
He helped me explore many areas of my sexuality
which without him would be unknown to me.
It has greatly enhanced my life knowing him/
Tony Clarke

Jim took me to Gummy as his slave; hooded me; plugged me; tied me to the walls.
He then forgot he came with me, and left me like that for four hours.
Golden Balls

"MAGGOTS" - your finest hour???
Luv you
Stutley xxx

Jim, thanks for being such a kind friend.
I'll miss your happy grin and glint in your eye.
Love
Jim x

We will miss you forever.
Your Sunshines xxx

Thank you for all that you brought into my life.
Love you
Angel xxx

As you know, I could only ever be your 'second best' friend in life
- but that has changed now and forever.
Love you
Norman xx

Jim and I go back nearly 30 years.
We had great sessions together and he always liked to
mention to people that I was his longest gay friend …
I shall miss him deeply and it was a wonderful pleasure
and honour to have known Jim.
Love
Joseph

To Jim.
Lots of love.
You will be hard to forget
S D

Jim, you will be greatly missed.
You were a ray of sunshine.
Kat x

Dearest darling Jim.
You were so kind and comforting and you willed all our lives with joy and fun.
We all love you so much - still.
R xxx

Didn't know him!
Met three of his friends: Shokti, Jim and Michael.
Came from Down Under (Oz), made welcome for his wake, met amazing people.
Sorry I missed him.
Colours
PS: Great party

My dear friend Jim
I am going to miss you
Thank you for being a wonderful, caring friend.
Wherever you are, I hope you are pain-free and at peace.
Angie x

Dear Elegant Friend
Now that you have gone - what are we supposed to do now?
Missing you already.
Your Elegant Friend
Ken xx

See you in the next life, brother.
Sharkey xxx

Cheerio, hello, see you soon.
Bet it's fun where you are now
Woo xxx

Hello my blushing flower!
What? What? No, I don't understand, … ah, yes,
yes, we did, we did a little skeleton dance.
Ah yes, you aw it from up there…
I bet the fun is without limits where you are.
Thank you, my blushing flower, yes I'll see ya there!
Bye, love you
B

What a beautiful send-off.
You were such a special man and touched so many lives.
You're touching so many others on the other side, wherever that it.
Bye bye sweetheart

James
A true gentleman.
Fond memories of you, ya one off.
Peter

MOW WOW
XxX
Patrick Hopper

You have left your mark on the world.
Around you there was always colour and laughter.
Jim, you're always a ray of sunshine.
You will always be special.
Love
Jose x

DEAR GHILLIE DO TALLELEE
The faeries of Berlin will never forget you and nor will the queers of London.
WE LOVE YOU JIMPIG
Marco, Shokti, Lovestar, X

Tree Trunk Legs
I first encountered your Weegie kidnap master role-play in a kidnap scene decades ago - driving
wildly on gravel car parks and delivering Jason to The Sultan's Palace for his birthday seeing-to ….
Ten years before we met in a Kings Cross dungeon, and a friendship built around delivering performance, dinners and scenes
- including Patrick's birthday kidnap from the Brixton Streets to the Flying Dutchman dungeon.
I will miss your enthusiasms - to try everything and anything,
and to go beyond straight / gay
to beyond …
Love
Ser
(ge) x

Thanks for all you did for me
Amber xxx

LOVE LOVE LOVE
MD
Cindy, Alan

We said our goodbyes and were at peace.
But I will carry with me till the day it is my turn to die,
the memory of your laughter, and the gift of your unique friendship
- and the names you gave me: Pondweed and Soulmate
Patrick xxx
(and not forgetting the wonderful friends I now have because of you).

Recorded at the Flying Dutchman, Wednesday 1 August 2018.

If you would like to add a dedication, please email:
steve@stephencoote.co.uk

Islington Crematorium

10am: Hearse and motorcycle escorts arrive

10:15am: Coffin enters
Entrance Music: You'll Never Walk Alone
The Pink Singers

First Reading: Life is Wonderful

"Life is wonderful. To be alive is wonderful. To be a conscious
part of the endless, spreading web of connections that links
everything together is a celebration. For me 'magic' is working
within that awareness, with a knowledge of being a part of all
that is, touching threads that also weave into all that has been and
reach, unravelling, into what might yet be.

That web may be the energy and dynamics of physics or the
remorseless wave of evolution, it may be the Wyrd, the Old Gods
or the hand of God. Whatever it is, to work in it, with it, and for it
makes all of life a ceremony and a celebration. If that is not 'sacred',
I do not know what is."
– McClellan 1997

Second reading: The Day Returns

"The day returns and brings us the petty round of
irritating concerns and duties.
Help us to play the man,
Help us to perform them with laughter and kind faces,
Let cheerfulness abound with industry.
Give us to go blithely on our business all this day,
Bring us to our resting beds weary and content and undishonoured,
And grant us in the end the gift of sleep."
– Robert Louis Stevenson 1850-1894

The Farewell
Music: Love that will not let me go

1. O Love, that wilt not let me go,
I rest my weary soul in Thee;
I give Thee back the life I owe,
That in Thine ocean depths its flow
May richer, fuller be.

2. O Light, that followest all my way,
I yield my flickering torch to Thee;
My heart restores its borrowed ray,
That in Thy sunshine's blaze its day
May brighter, fairer be.

3. O Joy, that seekest me through pain,
I cannot close my heart to Thee;
I trace the rainbow through the rain,
And feel the promise is not vain
That morn shall tearless be.
– George Matheson 1842-1906

10:45am: FUNeral ends

Afterwards, at The Flying Dutchman
Music and performances

After fighting it for over six years, Jim found strength and peace with his eventual acceptance of terminal cancer.

I know just how much he was supported:

- by the love and companionship of his many friends, both near and far;

- by the unquestioning dedication of dozens of medical specialists;

- and especially from the magnificent nursing care at the Marie Curie hospice in Hampstead, where Jim was finally free of pain.

Thanks to everyone who came along, and to his many friends who helped me with the FUNeral.

As always with Jim, it was a wild, wild ride!

Steve

Pictures of our wedding 27 February 2018

steve@stephencoote.co.uk